You’ve likely heard of the term “makeup sex,” which occurs after a couple resolves an argument or conflict. They then “reconnect” through sexual intimacy, putting their lingering frustration and heightened emotions to use. However, Julia Stein, a Berlin-based sex consultant and relationship advisor at Drachen Toys, believes in a different (but similar) form of sex: “mindful revenge sex,” as she calls it.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: revenge sex sounds a lot like infidelity. But, according to Stein, it’s not about getting back at your partner by hooking up with someone else. Rather, it’s engaging in sex with your partner while channeling their anger and frustration during the act. “When couples are angry with each other, there’s already intense emotion present,” explains Stein. “That emotional charge doesn’t have to be destructive. With the right mindset and communication, it can actually fuel a different kind of connection, one that reminds both people why they’re together in the first place.”
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