In Malaysia, intimate health is a subject that’s often swept under the rug. Talk about urinary incontinence or pelvic floor health can still feel like stepping into taboo territory. It’s an issue that quietly disrupts daily life, affecting everything from physical comfort to relationships, mental health, and overall self-esteem. But there’s hope for change — and it’s beginning to happen.
The very idea of seeking help for intimate health issues like incontinence feels embarrassing, even though one in four women and many men experience these conditions. There’s often the assumption that incontinence is just something to “put up with” as you age, or after childbirth. But this outdated thinking is starting to shift as more people realise that intimate wellness is an essential part of overall well-being, and there are solutions available to help regain control over their lives.
Opening the Dialogue: Education is Key
Intimate wellness is about so much more than just physical health. It’s about how we feel in our own skin, how we connect with others, and how we take care of both our bodies and our minds. It encompasses everything from managing pelvic floor strength and sexual health to dealing with the discomfort that comes with urinary issues. Many people in fact assume these conditions are just a natural part of ageing or childbirth, but in reality, they’re treatable. Left unaddressed, they can affect mental health, relationships, and overall quality of life.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. When people take charge of their intimate health — whether it’s strengthening pelvic floor muscles, addressing incontinence, or seeking help for sexual health concerns — they can reclaim their confidence and improve their relationships. Ultimately, it’s about feeling good in all aspects of our lives, from the physical to the emotional to the psychological.
Educational campaigns, community talks, and workshops can make a real impact. For example, women’s health organisations in Malaysia have shown how addressing topics like menopause, incontinence, and postpartum wellness in a supportive, accessible way helps people feel heard and understood, making them more likely to take action. By having these conversations — whether in a clinic, at a community event, or even with friends — we can normalise intimate health care and give people the tools they need to improve their well-being. Just as we regularly talk about fitness, skincare, and mental health, it’s time we give intimate wellness the same attention.
More than Just a Physical Issue
For many, weakened pelvic floors and bladder control issues aren’t just a physical problem — they can make everyday activities feel overwhelming. What might seem like simple tasks to others — like taking a walk, meeting up with friends, or even travelling — can suddenly become sources of anxiety. The constant worry about “accidents” can make people feel like they’re always on edge, questioning if they’re prepared or if something will go wrong.
As anxiety builds, many start to pull back from activities they once enjoyed. Social events feel overwhelming, exercise becomes difficult, and even spontaneous trips can seem daunting. For women, especially, the feeling that their condition is limiting their freedom can be incredibly frustrating. It’s hard to feel confident when your body feels out of control. This emotional strain often leads to isolation — avoiding invitations, withdrawing from social circles, and staying home more. Over time, that isolation can deepen, leading to loneliness or even depression.
Non-Invasive Treatments for Intimate Wellness
While conversations about intimate health are still evolving, there’s good news for those who need support: non-invasive treatments are now making it easier to address issues like urinary incontinence and pelvic floor weakness without the need for surgery. One such treatment designed for men and women, Emsella uses high-intensity focused electromagnetic (HIFEM) technology to strengthen pelvic floor muscles. In just a short session of 28 minutes, this specialised chair can simulate thousands of Kegel exercises, helping to improve bladder control over time. It’s a simple, painless solution that doesn’t require invasive procedures but can make a significant difference in restoring confidence and comfort.
For women, there are also treatments designed to help with vaginal health and rejuvenation such as the Exion Emfemme 360. Using gentle radiofrequency energy, these procedures can tighten and restore vaginal tissues, providing relief for those experiencing postnatal changes or sexual discomfort. These treatments are quick, effective, and have no downtime, offering a practical option for women looking to improve their intimate wellness without the need for invasive surgery.
Just as we’ve come to embrace regular exercise and healthier diets, it’s time we give the same attention to intimate health. Simple steps like maintaining pelvic floor strength, checking in on our mental health, and seeking advice from healthcare professionals when needed can make a big difference in how we feel about ourselves and our relationships.
As the conversation around intimate wellness continues to grow, it’s clear that taking care of these aspects of our health can lead to greater confidence, freedom, and joy in everyday life. By breaking down the silence and stigma that often surrounds intimate health, we open the door for people to seek the care they need — and to live more fully and comfortably.
This article is attributed to Dr. Nurul Ain Abdullah, MB BCh BAO (NUI, Ire) MSc (UCSI), Medical Director of Alainn Clinic.
