Dear Family Beef, My wife (43) and I (44) have been together for 11 years, married for three. We’ve always had a pretty consistent sex life, with a few slower or less active periods over the years: when our kids (6 and 9) were always sleeping in our bed, when my mother got sick, when my wife had a fracture. But they always felt like understandable circumstances where sex wasn’t the priority. I had my hand; it was fine. Outside that, we’ve stuck with once a week or more pretty consistently.
In this past year, we’ve had sex maybe four or five times. I am the one to initiate most of the time, and it feels like it wouldn’t happen if I didn’t. She says she’s tired or “isn’t feeling it” and asks for a rain check most of the time. I love my wife so much, and she’s my dream woman in every way and the best mother to our kids, but lately I feel like I’m annoying her by trying to show her how attracted I am to her.
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