The Older You Get, Unnecessary Drama Or Disrespect Becomes Intolerable Anymore

All I ever want is to age gracefully. I’m going to be 52 this coming October, that’s why. This is the age where I prefer calm over chaos and try to distance myself away from unnecessary drama and disrespect.

Thanks to my colourful adult life, somehow it has moulded my perspective towards this kind of thinking regardless of topics. My parents taught me to balance things out between speaking up and respect others at the same time. While it is important to be honest, I need to know how to choose the right set of words correctly so that the other end doesn’t feel, in any way, offended. That is why I prefer to just shut my mouth up. Only speak whenever necessary. This is important to avoid any repercussion. Being too honest can backfire—I always remember that.

One thing for sure, with age comes wisdom. Just too many of them in my head. That is why perhaps I just smile whenever there are stupidities popped up whether it’s in the office, on the road or somewhere else. I just smile and whisper to myself, “Relax. Take a deep breath. These are idiots—and their brains are full of sh*t. Their IQ level definitely is lower than yours—else this thing won’t happen in the first place. So, why bother to retaliate. There is no point talking to them. It’s okay. Let it be. There won’t be any closure to this. Just smile.”

At this age, I crave inner peace. Quiet moments, meaningful conversations, good coffee and fulfilling habits bring me genuine happiness. I choose my company carefully, I choose who I want to be acquaintance with carefully too and valuing those who support my well-being. This doesn’t mean I’ve become boring or complacent. It’s merely a shift in priorities, a deeper understanding of acquiring true happiness. It’s about finding contentment within, not relying on external sources. I’ve learned to prioritise our emotional health and surround ourselves with positivity. I gradually housekeeping my contacts on my mobile—deleted many telephone numbers who aren’t relevant anymore.

One more thing. Embracing serenity doesn’t mean I am avoiding challenges or ambitions. Not even close. It actually means approaching life with a calmer, more focused mindset. It’s about choosing our battles wisely and letting go of what no longer serves us. That is what it is all about. I truly look forward towards a calmer life. The present one has this one small chapter in it that is starting to stress me out.