I wish I had known sooner that I am the only person truly responsible for my life. For a long time, I shaped my decisions, actions, and even aspirations around the expectations or preferences of others, thinking that would bring fulfillment or peace. But in doing so, I often neglected my own needs, dreams, and well-being. Realizing that I have the freedom—and responsibility—to design my life around what genuinely matters to me was a powerful shift. It opened up a path toward authenticity, where my choices align more closely with my values and true desires, rather than being influenced by others.
Yes, I believe there’s a reason I came to this realization later. Growing up, I internalized the importance of harmony and pleasing others, so I often prioritized their feelings and opinions over my own. I thought that by doing so, I was being considerate and responsible. However, as I gained life experience, I began to see the cost of this mindset on my own happiness and fulfillment. It took time—and perhaps some painful lessons—to understand that valuing my own needs doesn’t make me selfish but rather more whole and capable of offering genuine kindness to others. This journey, though delayed, taught me resilience, boundaries, and the importance of self-respect.
Enrique Antonio “Iks” Reyes, Manila
